Love on the brain, but where does it start? When is that spark created? Do they perceive it, or is it one-sided? Do you go all in or hold back?
Do you often wonder why some people simply like each other and others have a magnetic force field around them! You know what I mean, I've liked guys in my lifetime, had great relationships too but a couple of them where that unstoppable, all in, can't get enough love.
What is it about love that is so scary? The vulerbility that you allow to happen, rejection, feelings not being reciprocated? The true fact that eventually it will all go bad? I pick D. All of the above. I have lived my life loving and holding back love. Very few times in my life have I felt an ultimate connection with someone. If you have felt it, you know exactly what I'm talking about. In fact, as you're reading this you're reliving it, that ultimate high! That slap you in your face, force field drawing you in...LOVE! That pit in your stomach for days on end wondering why. When it happens it's unexplainable. Some of us ride the wave, try and make it last as long as possible, some self-destruct to save time on heart ache and I guess others get lucky and experience it for a lifetime.
Obviously, it's never going to be perfect, mistakes will happen, regret will occur. If it is true love, forgiveness will happen and that feeling never leaves, disappears at times, sure. If I learned anything in my education on life, anything you want bad enough requires work, trust, understanding and communication.
We are individuals for that reason. You can not control someone and mold them to be who you want. You fell in love with them for who they are, not who you wanted. Stop trying to make them be who they are not. The world will try and intervene, doubt will occur and social media exists BUT know who you are and be that person. Yes jealousy may knock at the door, I guess if it didn't you may not care. Understand though why it's occurring and make rational decisions. The best advice I can give in those moments is breath, stay calm, understand, discuss later. I learn for my mistakes.
The last thing I want to say is when it's over, don't hold on to something that is no longer there. As bad as you want it to come alive again, it will never be the same, especially when the other person tells you it's over. This is when you need to put your focus into something else. Respect yourself. Love that it happened, enjoy the memories and close the chapter. So you can be open if it occurs again hoping the same mistakes don't happen.